Define SUPER - as in "Super mum" "Super housekeeper" and so on:
"Super" to me, is not pertaining to the heroic figure wearing their underwear on the outside of their skin tight garments. I mean, hey, I've tried it; it's not a good look for me! ;)To me, 'super' is simply doing what you can in the time you're given, if it doesn't cost others their life and peace, and leaves you feeling fine with your lot in life.
I've been keeping atop of the housework, but I allow untidyness here and there. I keep my bedroom straight, as well as other rooms, but if a cup is left here and there, if kids' shoes are dotted about the floor, if there's washing up in the sink, or whatever, I go into Super Mum and Wife mode and I do not freak out.
There is so much out there in the world, and in our homes, through television, the internet, and other day to day woes, that work to place negativity on our loved ones - and ourselves for that matter. No one needs me to add to that. So I seek to not add to that. To me, placing unnecessary stress on others is not 'super,' especially when all I'd really be doing is serving my ego and becoming a super pain in the butt!
When Tim and I first married - nearly 20 years ago now - I decided that I would never demand perfection from him until I could first give it, and I'm too darn lazy to be perfect, so I never demand it. In fact, there's been many times during the course of our marriage where I've guided him away from 'house work' and to his many talents. I am a firm believer that the fastest way to feel God's peace and presence is to use the talents He's given us; I believe that is an instant access point to His presence, so I encourage the talents my family have, for that purpose. To nag Tim in order to make the house more presentable - though less liveable through lack of peace and the stress nagging causes - is, to me, wrong and less than 'super'.
So, in short, while the dictionary may define super one way or another, my idea of super is doing the achievable without becoming demanding in any way - be it of others or ourselves! And if I slack off to watch a movie with my family, or skip the dishes to communicate with someone, then I'm fine with it and not kicking myself for not being perfect. Because, to me, if love doesn't come first, then the rest of it isn't worth having anyway.
Be back soon.... I've been away, and have a few things on my mind I'd like to write about now... :)
I hope you are well...
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