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Dropping my stones...

11/20/2011

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Dear Friend,

It's been awhile since I've written. I do apologise for that. I've not had much to chat about - well, nothing I thought of any great interest, that is. But today I just feel the need to open up my heart and pour my thoughts out. Feel free to tune out when the urge arises. :)

I was actually thinking about our attitude when it comes to repentance. We find ourselves guilty of a sin, of hurting someone, of doing wrong, of stepping out of God's will, and we ache to the point of great repentance. We then work our way through it and willingly accept mercy and grace - though that's not as always as easy as it sounds, but we'll do it because we don't want to carry that shame anymore.

In repenting, in coming to terms with what we are guilty of, we may even pray that no one else finds out or gets wounded by what we've done. And we seek, with all our heart, the peace and freedom given in being forgiven and becoming aware that we are.

Then there are those times when others sin against us, and all the mercy and grace we sought from God is locked away somewhere deep in our conscience and all we have to offer the one who has wronged us is pure anger and a need to serve justice. 

We forget that Jesus said, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone..." and we throw our stones, be it with fists, our words, or any other way that will work to bring another person to their knees. We forget that Jesus said to forgive as He has forgiven us. We forget that we are to love - even our enemies... and we justify our anger, and the vengeance we seek, in any way we can, claiming, "They deserve what they get!"

I'm not here to point fingers. I'm not here to condemn. I'm here to simply stand up and confess, with all my heart, that I am a sinner, too. 

Today, I drop the stones I've carried in my heart, the ones I've longed to throw at those who have wounded me. And I repent for the hardness and selfishness of my heart. And, with all I am, I ask that you forgive any and all grievances I have brought into your life... and I ask that God grant me a heart like His Son's, so I, too, may learn to love as He loved us, and forgive as He has forgiven us, and lay down my life for a friend rather than seek to hurt an "old one."

xxx





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Back to the Light

9/20/2011

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Dear Friend, :)

I hope you are well...

Me, I feel great. I am aware life isn't wrapped up in how we 'feel' - at least, it shouldn't be controlled by mood, but, gee, doesn't being at peace help you handle life more easily.

Actually, the way I feel at present is pretty much how I felt on giving my life to God 20 years ago. I feel free. The weight seems to be lifted off my shoulders. Faith and hope have returned to walk with me. I'm no longer plagued with what I knew was sin in my life, or the guilt and heaviness that comes with it. I feel grateful... and in that there is peace.

The peace came after the crying out to God. After repenting AND turning from my ways. After getting my heart right with God again... 

I was telling Tim (my hubby) yesterday, that as I ponder the peace filling me now, I am reminded of a prayer I offered to God a little while ago. I prayed that I wouldn't forget where I came from; that I wouldn't forget what it is to be grateful for what He's done in my life; that I wouldn't forget what I was like without Him, and what life is with Him.

It's as though I've been through that moment of salvation again, where I see God forgives, forgets, helps one start anew, and loves with all that He is. And if feels great! It's a feeling of being 'born again' - again; like starting life over with a fresh slate. 

On repenting and returning to God wholeheartedly, I found, and find, life to be much more delightful than what it was while my heart was drawing further and further away from Him. 

I know I shouldn't have to explain the ways of God - and He knows I don't know all His ways :) - but we both know that anti-God, anti-Christ, anti-Christianity folk, movies, and the proclaimed Christian who knows not love, have painted an ugly picture of Him, so, where I can, I do: He wasn't angry on my return. He didn't say "I told you so..." Neither was He angry while I was drifting away from Him - sad, maybe... but not angry.

I wasn't being punished for slipping away from Him. He wasn't poking and prodding me with a honed tongue or anything else in order to get me back. Rather, He waited patiently, using love, mercy and grace to draw me back into His arms. What I suffered out of His arms was simply the consequences of my actions.

I liken being in God's presence to being in the warmth of Spring's or a gentle Summer sun. Imagine finding yourself in your favoured "sunny" place - the countryside, by a stream, in a field, on a mountain, at the beach, in a garden... or wherever you would find the great sense of peace, joy and contentment. Can you see yourself there? Can you feel the gentle warmth of the sun on your skin; warming you with its soft touch, breathing peace into your soul...? Imagine the contentment of your heart in such a moment.

Now see yourself walking slowly away from that place, still happy and content, but being drawn away by something in the distance. Something that intrigues you... You don't leave your place of peace at first, as you want to stay and soak it in a little longer, but curiosity gets the better of you and you give in to it, and, using only one small step at a time, you eventually walk away from your favourite place and that wonderful sunshine. 

As time goes on, you find more things to intrigue you and you soon forget your favoured place, and, eventually, when that which lured you away starts to appear somewhat dull, or you touch it and find it causes pain in someway, something wakes you up to the fact that you have wandered so far from the sun that you're now standing in the dark, and its pretty darn cold and uncomfortable as well - if not scary, as well.

You know the sun is back there somewhere... Sometimes you feel you don't deserve to return to that place of peace. Sometimes you feel lost and you're not sure you could find your way back if you wanted to. Other times that which drew you away from the light in the first place will see you're thinking of leaving and somehow send out a new glow to draw you back to it again, and the temptation to be with any 'light' no matter how small, holds you to it, as the thought, such as "Well, this is all I'm worth anyway," holds you there and starts to hold you as the bars of a prison would.

But, eventually, you become very uncomfortable in the dark place, and your heart remembers the sun, the peace, the contentment - all that it possessed once - and with an aching deep in your soul, you yearn to be back there. Eventually, you soon see that which drew you away from the sun and its magnificence is little more than an empty, ugly item, that has tried to pass itself off as something worthy of you - but isn't.

At this point, some will run back to their favourite place in the sun, instantly regretting what they had allowed to happen, and breathing easier on being able to return to the sunlight with ease - as though they realise they have just been saved from death - and gratitude floods them.

Others will hide in the darkness, feeling unworthy of the light... and they will stay there until misery and depression, and even thoughts of suicide come to plague them... and they will stay this way until they break, drop to their knees, and cry out for God to return them to their "favoured place" and He hears their cry and sends help.

Others will stay in the darkness, fearing the light, or denying it... and God allows them to, because He gave them free will... and He knows the heart won't go where it does not desire to go, so He does not force, but waits, patiently, with love, mercy and grace in hand, prepared to give it to any who desire them.

But He never moves from that 'favoured place.' We do, but He doesn't. Nor does He create the heartache we find when we stray from that perfect place of peace. But neither does He stop us from wandering, if that's what our heart desires - even though He knows heartache awaits us... because He knows, that somewhere, at sometime, our hearts will yearn for that peace again, for that favoured place, for His presence, and when it does, there He will be, with arms open wide, drawing us back in, breathing a sigh of relief as He welcomes us back into the light and warmth of His incredible love.

God doesn't bring bad upon us when we walk away from Him. Rather, we walk out of the light and into the darkness, and we suffer the consequences of our actions - by the hands of darkness! We give darkness free reign in our life, and bind the hands of God. It's that simple. God doesn't cause that which comes against us in the darkness. Rather, we walk out of His care. 

God gives us the heads up, saying, "If you do 'this' that will happen..." as any loving parent would. He's simply warning us. He warns us because He desires to protect us. Don't forget, God is not male nor female - He is ALL; He has the loving instincts of both mum and dad, and He uses them with intense passion. In love, God highlights the consequences of our actions, before we head in that direction. He is not threatening us with those consequences!

God loves. He holds us, but lets us go if we want to go. And when we return, He is there, waiting with arms open wide, and the power to heal all the wounds we pick up when we walk out of the light and stumble in the darkness.

And that's what happened to me recently. I walked away from the perfect place of peace. I walked away from the light. I found myself playing with shiny trinkets that tried to pass themselves off as 'good,' which left me on my knees convinced that I was no good. But then repentance opened a door for God to send His light through, in order to light the path that leads me back to Him. And there He was, trying to convince me yet again, that He loves me... And it's soooooo good to be Home again! :D I love this place of warm sunshine. :)



As soon as I can, I'll highlight the last few days, sharing what God's doing in my life and the peace that comes with it... but, for now, I think we both need a coffee break, huh? ;)

I hope to see you soon...

Love and respect
Donna
xoxox


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Love will have its way...

5/30/2011

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Dear Friend,

Again, I've started to write to you a few times this week, but distractions have cornered me. It seems whenever I get halfway through a letter to you, Life calls and I must answer, and that has me discarding my letter for one reason or another.

So, I'm going to write a quick thought then go, before Life demands attention once more. :) (It has a habit of sneaking up on me when I least expect it.) 

I've been observing lately how anger has the power to alter a person's values. When in a calm state of mind, one can give love, peace, goodwill, forgiveness, faithfulness, and so on, and really mean it, but toss in anger, altering one's mood, and all these things, and more, can fly out the window.

In seeing this, I am aware that God is not like that. God does not change. He stays true to His values/morals/standards/character no matter what's going on around Him. He doesn't sway as we do. He doesn't throw tantrums. He stays true. He stays 'Himself'. He remains stable, and, therefore, can be trusted and relied upon. Whereas, mix a human with anger and we're more than likely to discard all that we loved only five minutes earlier; turn our backs on those we claimed we'd be friends with forever; give up on our marriage; justify unfaithfulness; damn and curse those we'd never damn and curse when we're of a 'sound mind'... and so on. 

We give up when we're angry. We damn others and things to hell. We hiss and curse and carry on seeking 'justice' and 'vengeance' and anything else that will appease our flesh, all the while giving our 'just' excuses... and quite often regret it all once anger subsides. 

The Bible doesn't tell us not to get angry. Rather, it says we are not to sin in our anger. Tim said to me the other day that while I may have held anger, I wasn't sinning with it. But, on closer evaluation, I realise I was. I withheld love. I pulled away. I gave up. I pulled back. I judged. I didn't reach out. I didn't help. I was a silent rebel. I didn't stay true to love... and God wants LOVE to rule in my heart, and in my life, at all times...

I must meditate upon this more... I want to be an expression of God's love. I don't want anger to alter that. I don't want anger, period! I am not overflowing with anger. I don't snap at everything. But there are buttons one can press, that I possess, and there are things that irritate me pretty darn quickly, and my response is to put aside LOVE and appease my flesh, therein altering my values and going on to sin in my anger...

So, I repent of said anger, receiving God's forgiveness and simply opening my heart up to Him for further examination and growth...

A few days ago, I noted that when I start to feel vulnerable, anger wants to rise up and protect me, and on observing this, I've found the only way to stay open to God and His truth, is to offer praise. I find that in praising Him for who He is, for His goodness, love, mercy, grace and so on, and praising Him for all the good things that are in my life, my heart remains open to Him, and I can handle the vulnerability with peace and hope, rather than with fear and anger...

So, I'm off to praise Him... and, in doing so, I know He'll be free to continue to work on this heart of mine, to speak truth into my heart, heal it, and set me free even more, and LOVE will have its way... 

Catch you soon! :D
Love and blessings
Donna
xoxoxox




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6/1/2010

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~ In The Pit ~
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This story was given to me, by God, a long time ago...but it was brought back to my mind recently during a couple of different conversations, so I just wanted to share it... I am not saying anyone here needs to hear it, but, well, you know what I'm like by now. If it's on my heart, I just have to write about it...just in case someone somewhere needs it...

The image I was given was of a girl in a pit. She was miserable and depressed. She cried out for help repeatedly, and, repeatedly, God sent someone to help her.

Each person that came to help, threw a lifeline to her; a rope with which they hoped to pull her out of the pit. She would grab that rope but in her heart she didn't want to be free of that pit. It had become her safe haven. What she really wanted was for others to join her in that pit; to comfort her there. Basically, she just wanted comfort, no matter what it cost everyone else.

However, what God impressed upon my heart was that, sooner or later, those who were sent - by Him - to help the girl, would come to the end of their rope. Sooner or later they would realise they weren't capable of helping the girl out of the pit, and, despondantly, they would move on, leaving the girl beyond... taking newfound feelings of insignificance with them.

For the girl, this scenario would play over and over and over again... and not once would she try to get out of that pit... She would simply keep yelling for help until she found someone to join her there; someone who would validate her grief and permit her to wollow in it eternally.

Sad, huh...

God knows I am NOT saying everyone who experiences depression is like this. But there are times in our grief where it just seems too difficult to get up and go again. It takes effort to climb up out of that pit... I know. I've been there. And I know it would be so damn easy to slide back into as soon as grief touches my heart again... but joy, peace, love and hope are not found in that pit, and God won't allow those things to comfort you in that pit, because He doesn't want you to stay there. Rather, He'll allow that pit to become cold, lonely and miserable, so, sooner or later, you will turn your heart to wanting to get out of it.

God doesn't step over the line our will draws around us. He won't go against our will, but neither will He climb into our will and serve us there. His will leads to perfect peace, joy, love and harmony, not ours..though the journey is not always easy... Our will often leads to self-gratification and God just isn't into serving the yearnings of the flesh. That's not to say He isn't willing to bless us, or give us or needs - He is. But selfishness He does not bow to, and that because He knows where it will lead us to.

When we are in a pit of misery - no matter how we got there - we often desire to block out the world; to hide in the shadows and lick our wounds; to grumble and groan about those who 'pushed us' into the pit...and other such things. And I believe there are times (when our wounds are fresh) where we need to find protection while we heal, but it's in His heart we who claim to follow Him must hide and place our faith and trust.

Sometimes, when our hearts are heavy, we will to be in that pit, because there we THINK we can find protection, a shelter from the storms of life, comfort and other such things. But, such comforts are false. Live in a pit of misery for an extended period of time and watch your joy and hope dwindle... Yeah, I've been there, too. And I confess to wanting to stay in that pit because "It's too darn hard to try again..." to hope again... to want again... to love again... to do what's right by all involved...

On coming out of depression last Christmas, the EXIT sign wasn't seen by me until I WANTED to be happy again. Prior to that the pain was my shield, my hiding place - my tomb, if you will, where I could just sit and mourn and long for what was... "What was" never returned to me, by the way. Not in the pit, and not out of it. But now I see beyond the misery and the pain and the loss, and though my heart still feels pain from time to time, the eyes of faith see a better day ahead... beyond the darkness, beyond the storm, beyond the pain...

I was once the girl in the pit... I've been the person at the side of the pit, and will willingly be again... but my heart aches for the relationships that must end when the 'end of our rope' is reached... To me, that is the saddest part of all: The severing of hearts that once were so close... especially because sometimes, it just doesn't have to be that way...

Please, know that I am not shooting this at anyone... I'm just sharing what's on my heart... 

God sends us help... but sometimes we are too tired to take that rope and climb out of the pit... I know. I've been there too. It takes effort to climb out; just as it takes effort to lose weight, or gain physical strength. Giving up is so easy. That takes no effort whatsoever. Yes, again I speak from experience. I'm good at giving up. It's probably the one thing I've mastered above all other things... but God doesn't give up. Sometimes He's stood at the side of the pit Himself, and instead of offering me a rope, poured conviction into the black hole that was my heart... and He has done so because HE LOVES and wants me free. He wants us all free of that which binds us to misery... 

But just remember what Jesus has said in offering someone healing: "Take up your bed and walk..." It takes effort... and that [effort] won't be found in us until we are willing to move beyond the grief... or the 'moment'... or whatever else binds us to that pit... (ie anger; disappointment; etc and so on...)






 

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